Sunday, March 7, 2010

Mothering In Community

New season of life. New blog title. Why not?

The URL will remain the same as I don't want to lose or forget about what I've already written here, so come here for my new thoughts - and hopefully some new discussions - about this thing that I've been doing for thirteen days called BEING A MOTHER.

(Holy crap.)

Still feeling quite overwhelmed by that title as, naturally, it's something my mother would do and not me. But I can now state with a modest amount of force that I am not as overwhelmed as I was a week ago. A week ago, when I would be rocking our little Jelly Bean to sleep and trying to sing Brahms' Lullaby to her...and couldn't make it through ten notes without bursting into tears from joy and terror. Yes, both. Simultaneously.

"Oh my, I have a baby! Oh my...I have a baby?!"

Now would be a good time to say that I'm going to be as unfiltered as is possible in this public forum.

Because apparently this mothering thing is not for the faint of heart.

No, not exactly right, for I have "fainted" plenty over the last couple of weeks. More than I have in any two weeks of my life to date. But as my wonderful pastor said in church this morning (we watched it online), many times when God asks you to do something, He knows you can't do it. He's asking you to do it so that you can learn more about relying on Him.

So I hereby declare for the first of what will be countless times...I am, naturally, pretty self-focused. I have been childless for all of these thirty-two years, after all. I want to sleep when I want, and eat when I want, and shower when I want. I mean, a girl's got to have her dignity after all, right? Right?! Why isn't anyone saying anything?!!

Dignity is not adaptive to current conditions, and I can either hold fast to it and sink this ship, or I can release it and get about the business of surviving. (For me, just having this baby did a good job of loosening lots of that dignity, but that's another story for another time.)

So. I'm trying to eat when I can, and sleep and shower when I can. And maybe someday I'll start cleaning the kitchen again. But for now, this is enough for me.

Actually, in terms of responsibility and blessing, it's more than enough for me.


Mrs. Donut said...

You are amazing, remember that! This post has me laughing and crying. Thet thing about God asking you to do things He knows you can't - how about four times over - and oh, the mistakes I've made and the grace I've experienced! Crying. The thing about showering whenever you can - oh, my, I'm just trying to remember I've gone to the bathroom with the door closed in the past ten years! Laughing! What a wonderful, terrifying, fulfilling, humbling, joyous journey you are beginning. How blessed I am to be your friend and be able to read all about it, talk all about it, and share it.

Alex and Jill said...

I love this post. :) I hope you find a little time to write on here - you're so good at it!!

Andrea said...

You're doing a great job!! I'm loving watching you be a mother. :)

Ines said...

A loving college roommate mother of 2 mailed me a book when NAsh was 2 wks old, titled Motherhood is not for Wimps. Made me cry, laugh, and comforted me that I wasn't so crazy nor alone. If I unpack it, you can read it. It's a collection of blog posts from one tired yet happy momma. One hour at a time friend!